Negativity Ahead: Parents tell their kids "learn from my mistake," and it actually bugs them as they watch their children ignoring their precious lessons, and making the same mistakes they made. But, at the same time, parents are making new mistakes, and learning the hard lessons from them. These mistakes are the ones that the older generation of parents is begging the younger parents to "learn from our mistakes," but the parents ignore these please and learn the hard way.
Case in point: Parents want to dress their kids in cute clothes, and then in cool clothes, and then when their son or daughter reach yeshiva age they expect the child to change their clothing style from what it was for 12 years and only wear proper, chassidish, frum garb. It won't happen.
Parents! You buy the clothes your children wear. Buy them decent, Yiddishe clothing from day one. Teach them that there is nothing else. When I see bochurim during their break wearing all kinds of trucker clothes, it pains my heart. The kid is 14 years old, wearing what his folks bought for him, and he's dressed like any shaigetz on the street.
The child hears from his teachers that he needs to dress one way, and from his parents he hears that it's only a school rule, but as soon as he leaves the four walls of the yeshiva, he can wear dungarees.
Parents, don't ruin your children because you want them to dress cute, or b/c you want them to feel freedom. Tell them what to wear. They'll listen. They want to listen. Unless you're telling them today for the first time and they're fifteen years old.
And yes, I find it cute that I write as though parents (or anyone for that matter) are lining up to read my bloggings.
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no parents, but I am
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